Hi again, Welcome to part 3 of the series "Speak To Us Of Children." In a previous issue I said I was going to make this a 4 part presentation, however this material has expanded to be much more than I initially anticipated. As I was writing, the material went in a direction that may not initially seem relevant to parenting. However, when we take a closer look at the relationship we have with our children, we will see a direct reflection of the relationship we have with our Source. To do this I had to expand this presentation to a 5 part series.

My intent in the next 2 issues is to stimulate your mind, to offer you a different way of looking at things, and perhaps assist you in reaching a higher level of freedom.

What is freedom you ask? Freedom is the absence of negativity. It can only be achieved when negative emotions like fear, angry and shame are released, and we open our minds beyond our current limited thinking. Freedom is our natural state of being. I believe we reach higher levels of freedom every time we replace doubt with trust, fear with love, and anger with laughter.

In the last issue, I mentioned how we need to shift from seeing our children as "property," to seeing them as individuals that be-longs to life itself. I shared with you a poem by Kahil Gilbran called, "Speak to us of Children." I asked you to read the poem and draw your understanding from it. In this issue I will share what I got from it.

Please keep in mind, we all perceive things differently if there is something that I say that you don't agree with, by all means don't. On the other hand, if something resonates with you, you may accept it as your truth. Only your personal feelings and experience can validate what is truth for you.

I will add the poem again just for a quick read and I will share which parts affected me the most.

And a woman who held a babe against her bossom said, Speak to us of Children. And he said, "Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you. And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts, for they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their soul, for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite and He bends you with his might that His arrow may go swift and far. Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness; for even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves the bow that is stable."

The Prophet, Kahlil Gibran



The following are excerpts from the poem which I will offer my perspective on.

"Your children are not your children"

The first paragraph is self-explanatory. It opens with the simplicity and clarity that truth is. Our children do not belong to us. They are not our property.

"They come through you but not from you."

This means just because we gave birth to our children does not mean we gave them life. We assisted in creating their physical bodies, but that which occupies their body is eternal, created by eternity Herself.

"And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you."

Most people believe if you pay for something than you must own it. And just because you feed your children, clothe them, house them and give them most of your time and money does not put a claim on them. In other words it does not change rule # 1, "Your children are not your children (property)," regardless how much money you spend on them.

"You may give them your love but not your thoughts, for they have their own thoughts"

As an ego-based parent, I wanted my son to think and believe as I did. The only problem was I didn't know my thoughts were limited, fear-based, judgmental and resentful, thereby only having that to give. I needed to allow my son to come to his own conclusion about life. I needed to stop telling him how dangerous and difficult life is, so that my thoughts and beliefs are not passed on, or forced on to him. Therefore, the sins of the father are NOT passed on to his son. This may sound difficult for an ego-based parent to hear, understand, or do, since ego doesn't have an open mind. It believes that it already has it figured all out. More will be revealed in the next issue.

"You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you."

I have to quote The Great Spiritual Master that said, "Come to me as children" and "Only children are allowed into the kingdom of heaven." What I believe The Master meant is that we need to return to our natural state of being. We need to become free of fear, anger, shame and resentment, as our child are.

Have your ever seen your child angry with someone, only to completely forget his anger a few moments later. This is because they cannot stay resentful for long, their dominant vibration is love, fun and joy. They may initially get caught up in the negativity, but they release it quickly because it's not who they truly are. Experiencing negative emotion is unnatural to them.

Experiencing negative emotions has become normal for adults, because our parents and religions have taught us to acclimate to that lower energy. Just because fear feels normal, it does not mean it's natural to us. Normal just means something we have become accustomed to through repetition. As children we were repeatedly exposed to negative thinking over the years.

The problem is that many adults/parents have become addicted to fear. And to make it worst most of us don't even know it. We then seek to make our kids like us.

We, the parents, must return home. We must become childlike again. We must become the love, joy, and forgiveness that our children are, since that is who we truly are. We just been lead down the wrong path by well-meaning parents and religions.

We can start on the path to freedom by forgiving ourselves for the pain we have caused others and ourselves. Forgiveness will not only connect you to your Divine Source (Kingdom of heaven), it will also release creative energy within you to use to influence your child in a positive way.

To make our children like us, the way most parents presently are, is to make them fear-based. This in turn will disconnect them from their Source, which will create a life of struggle and unfulfilled dreams.

To be childlike is to live joyfully in our now, by imagining the life we desire, since it is from our imagination we create our dreams. Read, Play and Imagination.

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Part 5 of this presentation.



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