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Often parents become angry with their children blaming
them for their unhappiness or family problems. Unfortunately, some
parents fail to see how they are contributing to, or creating the
problems themselves. Many parents often parent their child with
the attitude of, "I have been around a lot longer than you
have; therefore, I know more than you do, so you better listen to
me". The parents are right ... they do know more ... because
they know about fear, anger, resentment and shame ... just to name
a few.
When a parent tries to guide their child from this
place of disconnection the child is taught the opposite of who and
what they are. Which is love, trust and joy. It becomes very important
for parents to know that we cannot teach our children love, when
we ourselves are standing in the space of fear.
When parenting is practiced from this place of disconnection,
we help to create a rift within the child's being. This is where
the child's sense of belonging and connection to his source (spirit)
struggles for survival. Confusion sets in and the child is torn
between blindly trusting and following their parents' guidance (which
is usually shouting the loudest), or trusting and believing in their
own internal guidance (the within, whom speaks in silence). More
often than not, the loudest voice wins.
As the child makes the transition from love and
trust to fear and doubt, their connection to their source is lost.
The child's feelings of self-worth diminishes, then anger and rebellion
sets in and the child starts to act out in ways that is not harmonious
to his well being.
As the parent observes this self-destructive behavior,
the more disconnected the parent feels from their source, and the
more negative energy is created. (The feeling of fear, anger, shame,
guilt, or regret is an indication of disconnection.) As the parent
projects this negative energy to the child, the child in turn reflects
it back to the parent. This cycle of negativity is the downward
spiral of their relationship.
For a parent to be of any value to their children,
they must first connect with thier source. Then, from that place
of connection miracles happen and relationships are healed.
I have learned when I feel connected to my source,
I am inspired with the right words, the right action, at the right
time. Under this divine guidance parenting becomes effortless, as
it was meant to be.
The goal of the "Connected Parenting Newsletter"
is to help parents like you and me to connect with our source at
a deeper level, so we may create more joy in our lives and in the
lives of our children. |
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